About the FFF



FFF is known in her non-internet life as Suzanne Barston. She is the author of Bottled Up: How The Way We Feed Babies Has Come to Define Motherhood, and Why It Shouldn’t (University of California Press, October 2012), and spends her professional time writing freelance articles about a variety of health- and women’s interest-related issues, and counseling companies on their social media and communication strategies. The rest of the day belongs to her two awesome, obnoxiously smart (and formerly formula fed) kids, her husband (also formerly formula fed) and her dog (fed on dog food, but that’s basically the same thing, right? Kidding.)


The name “fearless formula feeder” was born from the author’s love for alliteration. She doesn’t really consider herself fearless – in fact, she has many fears, including, but not limited to:

Sad clowns
The cast of “Fraggle Rock”
Large crowds
Meat products (she’s vegan)

FFF was begun after Barston’s own struggle to breastfeed her son despite latching issues, an undiagnosed tongue tie, nerve damage in one breast, severe and sudden postpartum depression, a traumatic birth, jaundice, and a milk/soy protein intolerance which didn’t get better despite an elimination diet.

After that barrel of laughs, she became a formula feeding mom. Angry at the lack of information and support out there for parents who chose not to, or could not, breastfeed, she began researching and writing all about infant feeding.

Read an interview with the FFF here, explaining what the heck this site is about.


FFF is a blog – and community – dedicated to infant feeding choice, and committed to providing non-judgmental support for all new parents. It exists to protect women from misleading or misrepresented “facts”; essentialist ideals about what mothers should think, feel, or do; government and health authorities who form policy statements based on ambivalent research; and the insidious beast known as Internetus Trolliamus, Mommy Blog Varietal.

What you’ll find here are posts disseminating the breastfeeding/bottle feeding studies, with a heavy emphasis on relative risk and the concept of correlation versus causation; critiques of current affairs and the articles reporting on them; a Friday feature where readers exorcise their infant feeding demons by way of a guest post; and essays on the breast vs. bottle battle. What you won’t find here are attacks on any particular parenting style; prescriptive advice on how you should raise your kids or gloating posts about how I raise mine; or anything remotely resembling “anti breastfeeding” fare. FFF supports exclusive breastfeeders just as much as it supports exclusive formula feeders – as long as you do not judge how others feed their children, you are more than welcome to frequent these pages.


On Facebook: Facebook.com/fearlessformulafeeder

On Twitter: @FormulaFeeder

On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fearlessformulafeeder/

On Email: formulafeeders@gmail.com


5 thoughts on “About the FFF

  1. Suzanne, I recently found your blog when I was actually looking for a way to “dry up” from BF my daughter a few months ago. Until now, I had not had a chance to come back and read more, however. Let me just say…refreshing! I am a mother of two who breastfed both exclusively for 12 and 13 months. I am very sorry you were unable to experience it for yourself, but I am very glad you have started this blog for others to get all the information they can. I am not against formula, but feel feeding your baby is a very personal decision with many factors, that should not be influenced by anyone but your own gut and heart (and let’s face it, your body!). Thanks for all you do!
    Sarah Anne

  2. Hi Suzanne.
    I have just stumbled upon this website and although I have not had much of a chance to look through yet, I really want to say thank you. I am currently pregnant with my second child and am unable to breastfeed as I had a double mastectomy to treat breast cancer when my first was 6 months. I have no idea where or how to start with formula feeding a newborn, and have been feeling quite frustrated at the lack of information that is available in Australia, and being made to feel like I am somehow sub par as a parent for wanting it. If nothing else, I really appreciate the support that this website provides to parents who do not breastfeed.
    Many thanks, Karen

  3. As a public health professional who is well-versed in the mantra about the health benefits of breastfeeding for baby and mama, I was completely committed to exclusive breastfeeding, and never even considered another possibility. My story looks quite a lot like yours—After a very traumatic birth by emergency c-section, a small baby who needed time away from me in the NICU, tongue tie, a lazy suckle, and possible issues with insufficient glandular tissue in my breasts, I was pretty devastated. Like so many others, I have been so disappointed with the lack of resources and support available to those of us that need to supplement with formula. I still believe in the benefits of breastmilk, and I use the SNS system to maintain the closeness of the breastfeeding relationship while using formula. Even so, the bulk of information I’ve found on baby-feeding has left me practically in tears, feeling confused and guilty, and like I am harming my baby by providing food in the only way I can. Thank you for this refreshing site!

  4. I’m so grateful to have come across this site. I recently returned to work after 3 months and have begun exclusively pumping. It is taking its toll, mainly in time away from my daughter! I’d much prefer to be playing with my girl than spending my hours pumping and preparing and washing bottles.

    I’ve been agonizing over making the switch to formula, and this has just reinforced that I need to do what is best for both of us, and there’s no reason to feel guilty about it!

  5. I’ve just discovered this site and I think it’s fantastic, and the idea that we need to be kinder to one another over the internet, as well as in non-virtual life. I in fact breast-fed my daughter who’s now 8 for a year and a half, but it was a very tough experience, necessitated by the fact that she would never drink from a bottle – and couldn’t – whenever she did she threw up (including if the milk in it was mine). It wreaked havoc for us as I am the only earner and we had planned for my partner to be the main childcarer and do the getting up in the night. One thing that saddens me about the polarity of much of the discussion is that fathers barely get a mention. It doesn’t seem to be seen as a potential positive about bottle-feeding that fathers can be more involved, and can relieve the mother of having to do all the night-time feeds. I’m not saying that positive overwhelms everything else – it’s of course just one factor, and plays differently for different people – but when people get very heated and take the ‘you must breastfeed because it’s normal/natural/you’re selfish otherwise’ stance, I find it sad that all this moralism is still heaped on the mother alone.
    So, this is a great site!

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