I wish there was more research into premature birth and lactation. You can’t convince me it’s there now, when the information conflicts so much. And I wish that the research wasn’t just on a large scale, but that individual hospitals researched what they are doing. That LCs would follow up after patients go home and see how many were able to establish nursing and if they are happy with their breastfeeding situation. Maybe they need to introduce the breast earlier, use nipple shields more often, work on different holds and tips for nursing a baby that only weighs 4 lbs (much harder than it sounds!) Maybe if supply problems are common they need to do whatever they can from the very beginning to help — check flange fit, help with insurance and pump rental, maybe even starting with herbs right away.
In honor of Christmas, I’m posting this great essay from FFF Lisa. I’m sure we all have our own wishes to add to this list, so feel free to share yours in the comments. Hope you are all having a lovely holiday season!
– The FFF
I received my greatest gift in September of this year, a tiny baby girl. She’s an impatient thing and decided to make her entrance eight weeks early. I know I have everything I need or should want — my husband and I celebrate four years of marriage this month, my daughter is home and growing like a weed. But, I’m greedy, so I still have a wish list.
I wish that lactivists would stop treating preemie moms like full term moms. I wish they would promote breastfeeding to new mothers and advocate for things like nursing in public and pumping at work, but they would stop vilifying formula. I wish it was common knowledge that formula is FOOD, not a bunch of chemicals. I wish they would stop yelling how NICU doctors and nurses are sabotaging breastfeeding relationships by giving bottles and causing nipple confusion, and understand that the NICU is different. I wish they would understand that when your child is born months early, living in an incubator hooked up to machines, breastfeeding is not the ultimate end goal, LIVING is.
I wish there was more support for exclusive pumpers. Breastfeeding is promoted as a beautiful, natural thing, and when it’s not — when it means being hooked up to a milking machine 8-10 times a day — the support isn’t there. Instead those mothers see reminders that pumped milk is second best. I wish certain outspoken lactivist bloggers would stop acting like they know more than doctors and nurses. I wish they would listen when moms say they are having supply issues and understand that pump rental, herbs, and drugs can be expensive and aren’t guaranteed to work. Sometimes choosing to spend the money on formula that will nourish the child is the best choice and I wish that were recognized, rather than women being told they didn’t try hard enough.
Wonder if Santa could make any of that happen? I’ve been a good girl, I swear. 😉