In honor of Guest Post Week, I chose this submission from FFF Darcie, because she included some great tips at the end of her story – I think this helps it bridge the divide between a guest post and what we normally expect in a FFF Friday story. I also find it really fascinating that she was immune to societal pressures and refused to turn to the Internet for answers – instead, she looked at the research directly. This is rare nowadays, where Dr. Google is the medical expert of choice, and I think it gives her a unique perspective.
Seeing how well my daughter grew up (never getting an ear infection until she was 2, no allergies, smart, overall a healthy girl) I started to do some research on all the benefits of breastfeeding I had read about while I was pregnant. I didn’t look on blogs or websites. I went directly to the source research. I was even more confused! There were just as many studies saying formula-fed babies are just as healthy as breastfed babies as there are studies that say breastfed are healthier than formula fed babies…what’s the deal? So, I discussed them with my “crunchy”, well-educated-in-such-research-matters, friend. She said those studies are very inconclusive and her decision to breastfeed was solely a monetary and lifestyle decision. Really?? WOW!
Fast forward 2 years. Pregnant with my second daughter. I still wanted to breastfeed her because I felt cheated out of my first experience by the improper guidance I had received and really looked forward to having that same positive experience with this child (It was all about ME). Once again, life took over. Daughter #2 was not a good latch and tore me to shreds after one week. She wasn’t sleeping, I wasn’t sleeping. I was stressed about how much time it took to get her to eat all the while in pain, her screaming, me crying and feeling like I was neglecting the needs of my older daughter who only wanted mommy. I was heading toward an emotional breakdown. I gave her a bottle of pumped milk and she downed it like I hadn’t fed her in a week That was it. Decision made. Best for her. Best for me. Best for my family.
Come to find out, when my second daughter saw a developmental specialist, she has low muscle tone along with a high palate. That is why she couldn’t latch properly. That reaffirmed that I made the right decision – guilt free. I know there are many people out there that have gone through the same or much more difficult experiences, or there are those that could point to 10 different instances in my story where I was lacking support or whatever keyword of they day may be. It comes down to the fact that everyone has different tolerance levels and desires to overcome the roadblocks involved with breastfeeding. That’s life, it’s not perfect. No one is the same. No one has the same combination of life’s circumstances. Get over it and move on, sista!
Life’s about learning and growing so, here are my lessons learned for new moms:
4. Trust your instincts!
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